Overcoming the Networking Nerves

I have met so many people over the years who instinctively fear networking, either through a bad previous experience or some preconceptions about what it is. Just the word can bring a rush of anxiety rather than excitement! But I have also met just as many converts to networking who have discovered that it’s all about mindset, and finding what works for you…so here are my tips for overcoming the networking nerves, and discovering how brilliant it is to have the right support around you when you find the right network. 

 

At the heart of networking nerves is often imposter syndrome: that little voice telling you you’re not experienced enough, not successful enough, or not interesting enough to be there, and most people have felt a little bit like that at some point. 

 

You can start to overcome that when you see and believe in the value you offer, and your right to be in the room. Instead of focusing on what you lack, think about what you do bring: your unique experience, curiosity, fresh ideas, or simply a willingness to listen. 

 

 

Anxiety in networking situations often stems from pressure to impress, to say the right thing, or to make every interaction count. But the best and most meaningful connections rarely come from a ‘perfect’ networking session. So instead, treat networking as a series of conversations; you’re there to learn about others and share a bit of your own story along the way, and you don’t need to prove yourself to anyone. 

 

 

For introverts or those new to networking, the idea of walking into a crowded room can feel more than a bit overwhelming – so if that’s you, just start small. Set yourself a simple goal, like having two genuine conversations rather than trying to meet everyone. Preparing a few open-ended questions can also ease the pressure for these. Asking someone what they’re currently working on or what they enjoy about their role can naturally lead to more engaging discussions. Listening well is just as powerful as speaking, and is often more so. 

 

 

The best networking is when you’re present, curious, and open to connection with others. 

 

My own personal commitment has always been that every first-time visitor to one of our meetings should be greeted with eye contact, a warm smile, and genuine interest. That’s what 

 

you’ll always get when you come to a Busy meeting for the first time, and every time after that too – and whether you’re new to a meeting or an old hand, I guarantee that this approach to meeting new people will work for you too. 

 

Over time, all these little strategies will build up your confidence, and you’ll soon be scanning the area for more opportunities to surround yourself with the people who lift you up to achieve heights in your business that you never thought possible. That’s the brilliance of the right network.